Episode 18

Real Women Real Lives > Under Pressure
Under Pressure

With Barbara Patterson + Melissa Palazzo-Hart

Today, Barb and Melissa offer a fun conversation about a heavy topic.
Most of us live under undue pressure in certain areas of our lives. This conversation between our two hosts beautifully shines a light on what we sacrifice by turning up the pressure and offers us ways to shift so we can be more productive while enjoying a life of more ease and fulfillment. 


  • Barb discusses her early relationship with using pressure as a motivator, buying into the misaligned idea that pressure is necessary to do well. [00:01:30]
  • Barb reminds us that a freer, more relaxed mind internal state that better thinkers and more productive than a revved-up mind. [00:03:19]
  • Melissa discusses how unsustainable pressure is in the workforce. [00:06:58]
  • Melissa conveys the interesting results of the Marshmallow Experiment, where kindergartners outshined corporate executives. [00:08:43]
  • Barb asks us to remember that a temporary human experience (pressure) is not an ingredient for success or necessary in business. [00:11:49]
  • Barb shares how she stopped respecting the pressure and saw it for what it is, and Melissa shares an anecdotal client moment about bypassing pressure by slowing down. She throws in a sauce-on-the-back-burner analogy to make her point. [00:15:52]
  • Barb reminds us of the power of the pause. [00:18:16]
Do You Have Questions for Barb & Melissa?


Meet Your Hosts

Barbara Patterson is the owner of a global coaching and consulting company bringing the insights of performance and fulfillment to clients around the world. She helps organizations, leaders, entrepreneurs and coaches access more clarity, creativity, have greater impact and higher levels of performance in work and life. Barb is the Founder of Beyond Limits in Business and is hosting the BEYOND LIMITS BUSINESS SUMMIT in Edinburgh Scotland this May.

You can follow Barb on Linkedin, Twitter and Instagram. You can also subscribe to her weekly blog on her website at

Melissa Palazzo-Hart has 25 years’ experience leading marketing, strategy, finance, operations, and talent for some of the most prestigious agencies and brands including Disney, Activision and Omnicom. Throughout her career, she has built campaigns for some of the biggest names in entertainment and media which have been awarded Emmy Awards, Cannes Lion Awards, Effies, Telly Awards, Game Marketing Awards, Broadcast Design Association Gold Awards, and Clio Awards. Melissa is building a movement of paradigm shifters to unlock the potential of their minds to affect change in our world through seeing and living beyond perceived limits. She guides leaders and organizations at the highest levels how to make a meaningful impact through the power of heart work, instead of hard work.

You can follow Melissa on Linkedin and Instagram. You can also subscribe to her weekly blog on her website at


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